If Only I Had a Heart …

wiz_c016A few years ago, a gentleman I knew died because a metal pipe struck him in the head. He had been helping his son build a batting cage and his SUV was still loaded with unrestrained “parts” in the back. During his drive to work Monday he slid off the road, hit a tree, and a pipe from the back lunged forward and struck a fatal blow to his head.

I think about this man every now and then … not because he was a dear friend. At best, he was a friendly acquaintance. But still – I think about him. And I tell people I know about what happened … I tell college kids and adults alike to clean out the crap in their cars because these kinds of things happen, but they never should.

When I was in high school I had a friend that told me she wasn’t afraid of death because she knew it wasn’t her decision to make. Because she knew that she, like all living things, actually belonged to God and if he decided to take her back, well, then that was his right.

I don’t know how I feel about that. But, like the man I wrote about above, I think about her now and then and what she said still haunts me a little. Because I don’t like to think that it’s not up to me when I leave this world. I don’t like to think that God might decide to take me back and away from my family whenever he decides it’s the right time. And honestly, it makes me angry.

But. What I do know is this. If it does become my time before I think I am ready, I can only hope that a part of my physical self will go on in this world and help another person live through organ donation. The man that died, he was an organ donor. And he was also a recipient. He had juvenile diabetes and in his thirties, was fortunate to get the call for a kidney transplant. After the surgery he lived a healthy, full life. A life, that thanks to a donor, he was able to have with his wife and children. A life that was tragically taken away far too soon, but still one that left behind a legacy of cherished memories for his loved ones.

Please, make sure you and your loved ones are organ donors.  For more information visit this site organdonor.gov and know that in the eleven minutes it may take you to register as a donor, someone else will be added to the national waiting list. Someone else. I hope it’s not one of my someone elses nor yours. Today’s post inspired by The Daily Prompt: Don’t you forget about me“Imagine yourself at the end of your life. What sort of legacy will you leave? Describe the lasting effect you want to have on the world, after you’re gone.”




34 Comments Add yours

  1. Chrissy Bee says:

    I have been thinking about doing a post on organ donation, because it's so important. Thank you for sharing this.

    Also, thanks for stopping by my blog a few days ago. It's much appreciated! Hope you're doing well this week!

  2. Momfever says:

    Phew, that's an amazing story. Thanks for sharing.

  3. EmptyNester says:

    It is always sad when a life is taken at such an early age. Life is short enough when we get to stay into our 90s! Thanks for stopping by earlier- following you now!

  4. chubskulit says:

    Hi there, found you through Friday Friend Connect. I am now a follower and would be so delighted if you could join any of my blogs. I have multiple blogs so you can choose which one you want to follow, thank you! Have a great weekend.

  5. Great post, Shauna! I'm glad we found each other! For what it's worth, I try to remind myself that God has a plan for me and for my life. And though it is kind of scary to know that our days our numbered, I know that God loved me SO much, he sent his son to die for me, and because of that, where I'm going when I die is somehow even greater than this life I get to live on earth! Do I want to grow old with my husband and have lots of kids, and watch them grow old? Absolutely!! But for now, I can try to leave a legacy (like you said) and trust that God knows and loves WAY more than I could ever know or love. …Hope you have a great weekend! I'm following you back! :) P.S. You are beautiful!!

  6. Following you now from blog hop. Would love a follow back! I am an organ donor, blood donor and I am also in the national bone marrow donor registry!
    My wishes are on my driver's license and my family knows as well! Thanks for a great post and i'm excited to follow along.

    visiting from http://imnotatrophywife.com

    of course, my post is on maple cake! xo, laura

  7. Tracy says:

    Wow, 2 great messages in this post. Thank you. We currently have a couple of things in our trunk that we will be removing tonight, thanks to you.
    Thanks for stopping by http://www.Mama-press.com.

  8. Thank you for writing this! May God bless Jeff's family.
    Thank you for the follow! I am following back. Come join me at the Lots of Lovin' Weekend BH

  9. Big D and Me says:

    My heart breaks for Jeff's family. When my husband was 34 he had a stroke. Thankfully he came out of it with no effects – but everyday I think “what if the clot had been just a little bigger – I never thought it was almost his time, I thought wow what bad luck – been an organ donor for a long time – I tried to become a follower but couldn't get that section to come up. I'll try again tomorrow.

  10. Kim says:

    Beautiful post. I am sorry for your loss and hope that Jeff's family can take solace in the fact that he will live on. Thank you for stopping by and I am following you back.

  11. AmberFaith says:

    Hello! I'm following you from the Thirsty Thursday blog hop. Would love for you to stop by and follow back, whenever you get the chance! Hope you have a good rest of the week! (:

    Amber @ Beautifully BellaFaith

  12. thanks for the follow (expecting to win). what a tragic story :-( I'm an organ donor as well. Seems silly and selffish not to be, I mean we won't really need them after… well you know.

  13. Organ donation is such an amazing gift to give to someone and their family and friends. I've seen how its changed lives. I'm following you back form the hop, thank you for following me!


  14. Death is a very touchy subject that I am uncertain on how I feel. I have lost too many loved one's and it is something I constantly think about. 2 years ago I lost my mother without any warning, so while she was closer to me than Jeff was to you, I understand thinking about someone all the time.

    I think being an organ donor is an amazing thing. When one person passes on, the greatest gift they can give is the life to someone else.

    Thanks for stopping by my blog :)

    ~your newest follower


  15. Shirl says:

    Hi, I'm your newest follower. Such a sad story. Organ donation is the greatest gift you can give someone after you have gone: great blog post. x

  16. Slamdunk says:

    Sorry to hear about Jeff, and I agree with your closing–organ donation is the little thing that we all can do that could make a huge difference for someone else.

  17. Great post! Love the writing! Organ donor is great!


  18. Jessica says:

    That really is a great inspirational story!

  19. Hi Shauna, I am an all out following God kind of girl, yet I still struggle with when it is our time. I personally believe there is no safer place then in His will, but believing and living it are two different things. When we found out our 4 year old (at the time) had brain cancer and needed to have brain surgery and he could die it was no easy task to lay him before God and trust in His timing. In moments like those whether you believe or not it is 100% out of your hands. All that to say our family is 100% for organ donation. Oh and I'm following along too :D

  20. Chloe says:

    Great post. I'm a new follower from the hop. Hope you can stop by! http://www.mamasmusingsblog.blogspot.com

  21. Jennifer says:

    I think organ donation is so important and I've registered. I've also told my husband to approve it if they ask him.

  22. Thanks for following my blog! This is such an inspiring post. I have thought about being an organ donor, and I've donated blood in the past, but I've never taken the time to become an organ donor, just yet.

    I believe when it's your time, it's your time. If it was your friend's time, metal pipe or not, he would not have survived the accident. I believe if it was his time to go, sort of like final destination, something else would have gone wrong. But that's just me.

  23. Christy says:

    Organ donating is one of the greatest gifts a person can give to not only one person, but MANY people. Great post Shauna.

    I know a few people who think like that girl. A few years ago a guy I know was in a car accident with his seat belt on. He broke his arm in the accident and would contently complain about how the seat belt broke his arm and if he hadn't been wearing his seat belt his arm wouldn't have been broken. Finally I told him “Maybe you ONLY broke your arm because you were wearing your seat belt… you probably would've been more hurt if you hadn't worn it.” He shut up after that.

  24. Angela says:

    Organ donation is so important! I'm an organ donor and I believe that everyone should be. Thanks for following Mommy Time Out

  25. Jill says:

    Touching Post!

    Thanks for stopping by Frugal Plus. I now Follow you via GFC :)

    ~ Jill

  26. Rene says:

    I agree 100%. I am a nurse, and I have seen how important those donations are. It is such a wonderful thing to know that you can help someone else live! Stopping by from Wandering Wednesday. Thanks for stopping by my site!

  27. Following you back!!!

  28. MiMi says:

    That's so tragic. How wonderful that he “lives on.”

  29. I'm an organ donor. My son had some surgeries and after that, I realized how important donation is. It's interesting how everyone is so different though. My husband still isn't a donor, even with everything we've been though. He has his own reasons though.

  30. thanks for hopping by Couponing Texas…now your newest GFC follower

  31. Anonymous says:

    Extremely good writing….

    Write a book like this and you will be famous….

    From someone who would give you her heart, liver, kidneys and anything else she has.

    And, yes, I am a donor…..have been for decades.

  32. I just became an organ donor! I always have said I wanted to become one, but never have until just last week!

    Such a tragic story. It's scary to think about our time “ending,” but I'd like to think that God's timing is best.

  33. Anne says:

    followed you here…

    hope you can follow me back at http://emotera.me


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