It can be excruciating to admit this …

So, I wrote a book. But most of you know that. And actually, I’ve written a couple books but only released the one. And while at first, I was unbelievably happy and excited about the attention and the press that it incurred, it never ceases to amaze me how some people … some that are closer to me than any of the independent reviewers out there who graciously donned my book with higher accolades than I could have hoped, how some of these people now find it necessary to label me a “show-off” and a “bragger”.  And this confuses me.

Should I not smile when people ask me about it?  Am I not supposed to be proud of my work? Should I not tell people about the book signing that Starbucks hosted? Should I just sit in a corner and hope my book sprouts wings and flutters about marketing itself?

It would be one thing if I talked of nothing other than my book – but I do not. If anything, I do not talk about it enough. Instead, I wait for someone else to bring it up and then I generally feign embarrassment, tell them the basics and then quickly change the subject and secretly pray that they don’t buy it. Because I have let the mean people have their way with my brain and it’s embarrassing knowing that it isn’t my best work – that while it may have had some success, the writing was rushed and not as delicious as my writing is these days. And it can be excruciating to admit this, even to myself, let alone to the mean people.

Today’s post inspired by The Daily Prompt – Isn’t your face red: “When was the last time you were embarrassed? How do you react to embarrassment?”

On another note, why are some people so mean? Why do some relish in degrading others? Does it really make them feel better? Does it level the field, so to speak?  And why, should I consider someone a friend that is quicker to label me arrogant than congratulate me for perusing my dream, working hard at it, and making it happen? Just a little juice for your Monday morning : )

15 Comments Add yours

  1. lifelessons says:

    Time to find new friends who can celebrate your achievements with you–perhaps because they have some of their own. One good way is to join a writing group. They will understand the huge amount of work that goes into writing and publishing a book and will know you deserve applause for it.

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  3. Bookin It Up says:

    Thanks for stopping by my blog! Congrats on your book. I never understand people and their logic. Like most of the comments it probably boils down to jealousy or that they can't relate to your success so they mock it.

  4. Slamdunk says:

    I think jealousy motivates others as well in a society that backs the “it's all about me” theme.

    Rather than encourage and celebrate that your talents are recognize, they use your success to reinforce what is wrong with their own lives–specifically with not accomplishing what they believe they should.

  5. Congrats! That is a wonderful accomplishment!

    Really..for those people who do not want to celebrate with you…usually they have troubles of their own. We live in a very mean society. The sad thing is that it starts as very young children; most who mimick what they have seen around them/or live with. :(

    On a positive side…there are very kind people also! Sometimes it is just easier to see the negative.

    Anyway…I am following you! Thanks for stopping by my blog and following! I am following you!
    If you get a chance and it interests you, please stop by my blog and entry my giveaway! It ends tonight at 10pm (cst).

    And Good LUCK!!! :)

  6. Connie Green says:

    Hi! Following back from the hop. Thanks for visiting me. Congratulations on your book! I will definitely have to look for it. I really can't explain why some people act the way they do… I guess it just comes down to jealousy. You should be very proud of your accomplishment. A true friend would be thrilled for you, they'd be spreading the word about it… not making you feel bad. I wish you all the best! Look forward to reading more of your blog and checking out your book.

    Hugs, Connie

  7. Fifi says:

    People can be mean and it sucks even more when it's family or people who you thought were friends!

    People who do not have success can only be envious and hateful to the ones that do.

    I do not know you personally but Congratulations and I wish you all the best! ☺

    thank you for the follow, I'm happy to return it!

  8. Irene says:

    Shauna, I think it all boils down to one thing–envy. And yes, they do try to bring you down to make themselves feel better. It sucks, doesn't it? Especially if it's the closest people to your heart doing it.

    But these are happening because of one thing–you're great and they're definitely threatened by it. Don't stoop down to their level. :-)

    Congratulations on your book, Shauna! And congratulations on all the wonderful opportunities that getting it published has come your way! Blessings! :-)

  9. Sarah G. says:

    You should be proud and as easy as it is to say “don't let the jealous people bring you down”, when it is someone you considered a friend, it always hurts. I happen to know for a fact that you in no way act arrogant, or as a show-off or bragger. Anytime someone brings up your book you always deflect, so the arrogant/show-off comment is completely false. Personally, I am inspired by you for pursuing your dream and feel honored to know you. You are a great author, mother, friend and neighbor. Hang in there and keep you head up, you are above the nasty comments.

  10. Ciao Mama's says:

    First congrats and you should be proud
    2nd mean people suck
    3rd they can suck it
    Not deep but to the point

  11. “If people are trying to bring you down, it only means that you are above them.”

    I read that before on Pinterest, and it reminded me of this post. Some people never pursue those creative dreams – they only go with what's safe. If even a lifelong friend or family member can't be supportive of you and cheering for you in your corner, taking pictures of your book signing for your scrapbook, saying “Oh my gosh, girl, can you believe this!?!,” then I would re-evaluate.

    I know I'm nameless, faceless person, unless you click on the blog, then hello :). But, I had to do the same after things changed when I left for the Army. Even family relationships changed. It sucks. I'm sorry you're going through this. And that my comment was so long, haha.

  12. It all boils down to jealousy. If it didn't bother them on some level, then they wouldn't feel the need to say such things.

  13. Kathi says:

    First off…CONGRATULATIONS…and people who say and do mean things to others are jealous because they are not you…they may even try to take you down…so watch your back…had it happen to me…learned from my mistake…but it's all about their insecurities and jealousy…so just turn you back…ignore them…and enjoy all of your hard work…you earned it….

  14. Cyn says:

    i truly think in our brightest and worst moments is when we find out who are true friends are…

    “False friends are worse than open enemies.”

  15. MiMi says:


    Mean people suck.

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