How to be a good friend (bring your calculator)

gossipRemember word problems in school?  You know, ones like this: If person A drove 15 mph for 60 miles and person B drove 20 mph, who would get to mile marker 35 first … or something like that. Well I have a word problem for you. Here it goes:

Suzie is friends with Mary. Mary tolerates Suzie. Suzie thinks she is friends with Jane. Jane is friends with Mary. Jane cannot stand Suzie. Jane does not pretend to be friends with Suzie. So why is it that Suzie feels compelled to spread ill-will about Jane to Mary?  Is it because:

      A.)    Suzie is juvenile and simply can’t help herself?
B.)     Suzie thinks Mary will favor her more if she talks bad about Jane?
C.)     Suzie lacks a spine and cannot think for herself?
D.)    Or, is it merely that Suzie is, well, stupid?
E.)     All of the above.
Not all that long ago I had the pleasure of spending time with Suzie, Mary and Jane and a few others, and I was more than a bit disenchanted with Suzie’s lack of couth. I mean I get that it’s somewhat “normal” to talk about other people and a good humored poke at a friend can, at times, be acceptable.  BUT, when people like Suzie are always down in the mouth about their “friends” it gets a little hard to swallow and even harder to listen to and quite frankly, I really don’t want to hear it.
Now I’m not necessarily suggesting everyone follow the, “if you don’t have anything good to say, don’t say anything at all” rule, but it sure would be nice if a few more people stood their ground, stood up for their beliefs and stood up for the people that they call their friends.
Happy Tuesday Everyone!  Now go say something nice about someone you care about : )
By the way, I noticed I lost a few followers as of late … don’t suppose that was Suzie’s way of letting me know she found her spine? Oh, and in case you are wondering, the answer to the word problem is E.) All of the above. Today’s post inspired by the Daily One-word prompt: Fake.

11 Comments

  1. Following you back from the hop…happy to meet you!! Those were the famous words of “Thumper”..if ya don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all!!! I do “try” to live like that…i mess up sometimes, but just know that yucky feeling, if someone talks to you about someone else, they will do the same when YOU are not around. I want my friends to trust me, so I think about that too!!

  2. This sounds like some of my high school girls… lol! I guess some people never mature:)

    I am so excited that you are now following Teaching Today and I look forward to reading more of your posts!

    Happy Hoppin'

  3. Thanks for stopping by Eco-Crazy Mom today, I am following you back! I look forward to checking out your book, and would love to keep in touch.

    Smiles,
    Terri
    @EcoCrazyMom

  4. I always try and stick up for my friends. My best friend used to work with me and since they let her go I am always sticking up for her to the people I work with. I have no problem telling people to shut their mouths lol

  5. Our older son is suffering through word probs now with homework–makes parents put on the thinking caps for sure. Yikes.

    Sad that Suzie never grew up.

    Happy 2012 to you as well Shauna.

  6. I've known some “Suzies”. And, in fact, just stopped being friends with one. It's exhausting to be around people who only want to talk about other people, but then are 'friends' to their face. Not to mention, this one would talk about other people to bait me into agreeing with her, and then run back and tell those people that *I* was the one talking about them! Ugh. What a headache…I thought we were all grown ups! All of the above is right!

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