Trust. It’s an odd word. Say it again. Say it outloud. Or ask someone else to say it … listen to it. And then, ask yourself what it means. What’s the first thing that comes to mind? Because for as simple as the word is, everyone has a different understanding, different connotation, different interpretation …
I think most adults drift to their intimate relationships when they think about trust. But, trust is so much more than that … so much more than the inevitable “will he or she cheat on me” … I mean come on. Not to shed light on commitment, but let’s be honest … commitment means something different for different people. And far too many people are concerned more about the physical “cheating” than the mental. Sorry peeps, but emotional “broken trust” is, I think, the absolute worst thing. And quite frankly, if you don’t have the emotional connection, you’re not going to have the physical.
“None of us knows what might happen even the next minute, yet still we go forward. Because we trust. Because we have Faith.” ~ Paulo Coelho
So back it up for a second … I believe trust is inherent. I think we are born to trust. But. I also believe we are born not to trust, but to just be. Because the word “trust” developed out of humanity’s need for it … children trust their caretakers even before they know what “trust” means. Animals trust their owners long before they are given a reason not to. Humans trust the universe to give them tomorrow … it goes on and on.
We always see our worst selves. Our most vulnerable selves. We need someone else to get close enough to tell us we’re wrong. Someone we trust.” ~ David Levithan
Bottomline, no one can give their self to someone, not completely, if they don’t trust them. Physically and emotionally. No one wants to be hurt. Not really. OK … yes, yes, there’s a fineline that some welcome and want to explore sexually—oh, come on, don’t pretend you haven’t fantasied about being under the control of someone else … someone you find so utterly wickedly sexly … BUT, therein lies that word … trust … being under someone’s control, physically and emotionally means you also have to trust them. Because if you don’t, then when it comes right done to it, you don’t really trust them at all.
“Trust no friend without faults, and love a woman, but no angel.” ~ Doris Lessing
DISCLAIMER: I’m a writer and an editor. And I try my best to make sure every post is articulate and free from errors. However, being that I edit my own work—and it’s next to impossible to properly edit your own work—I admit, occasionally there may be an error or two I miss. But doing so doesn’t make me an idiot so don’t be mean. Just smile, pat yourself on the back for finding an error and be glad you’re not the only one who makes mistakes sometimes … xoxox