“And why do we fall, Bruce? So that we can learn to pick ourselves up.” ~ Thomas Wayne
A lot of us were raised to think success is a competition instead of a collective win. We worry about being judged, or being “too much,” or looking like we’re bragging. So, we protect ourselves by shrinking … especially when it comes to other women. It’s not pretty, but it’s real. And it’s something we have to unlearn if we want the kind of support system we all say we want.
We talk a lot about women supporting women — and honestly, it’s never felt more important than it does right now. But let’s be real: we’re not always great at it. Sometimes we shrink around each other. Sometimes we get competitive in ways we don’t want to admit. Sometimes we fall into that “Queen Bee” trap where one woman climbs the ladder and then kicks it out from under everyone else.
It’s frustrating, but it’s also human. Most of that behavior comes from insecurity — from the belief that there’s only one seat available, for one woman, at one table. Like we’re all fighting over the same tiny chair.
Madeleine Albright said, “There is a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women.” It’s blunt, but it’s also a reminder: success isn’t meant to be solitary.
For me, success in life looks like this:
Success is when you’re in a meeting and another woman has the floor — and you listen, you reinforce her ideas, you make eye contact, you help her stay standing instead of quietly eroding her confidence.
Success is complimenting other women without hesitation. Their confidence doesn’t threaten yours. Their wins don’t diminish yours. A simple “that was smart” or “you handled that beautifully” can shift someone’s entire day.
Success is recognizing that there is room at the top for more than one woman. There’s room for many. There’s room for you.
Because when women support one another, the benefits ripple outward. Support is contagious. It creates environments where kindness isn’t performative — it’s structural. And as more women uplift each other, we collectively grow stronger, paving the way for future generations who won’t have to unlearn the scarcity mindset we inherited.
So how do I define success? Success is shared. It’s collective. It’s women supporting women, refusing to shrink, refusing to compete for crumbs, and choosing to rise together. That’s the version of success I believe in — and the one I want to keep building.
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DISCLAIMER: These are my personal experiences and opinions. Nothing here is medical, nutritional, or therapeutic advice. Also, I’m a writer and an editor. And I try my best to make sure every post is articulate and free from errors. However, being that I edit my own work—and it’s next to impossible to properly edit your own work—I admit, occasionally there may be an error or two I miss. But doing so doesn’t make me an idiot so don’t be mean. Just smile, pat yourself on the back for finding an error and be glad you’re not the only one who makes mistakes sometimes … xoxox
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